{"id":1153,"date":"2011-07-21T07:26:58","date_gmt":"2011-07-21T12:26:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.drbilltoth.com\/blog\/?p=1153"},"modified":"2011-07-21T07:26:58","modified_gmt":"2011-07-21T12:26:58","slug":"your-phd-and-the-waitress","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.drbilltoth.com\/?p=1153","title":{"rendered":"Your PhD and the Waitress"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Good Morning Team &#8211; In the process of building your business you&#8217;re going to acquire several degrees in psychology.  People are funny.  They do things that seem silly, weird, illogical, etc.  For example;<\/p>\n<p>Go to any med school or law school and you&#8217;ll see the drop out rate in just the first few weeks is more than 50%, by then end of the first semester, first year &#8211; the number is even higher.  And that&#8217;s after they fought to get in!  As I went thru med school I watched as people dropped out all along the way for many reasons, all &#8220;valid&#8221; to them.  Some even quit during their residency!<\/p>\n<p>Go figure?  NOT!  Stop wasting your time trying to figure out why people quit or do things that seem silly, weird, or illogical.  To them their reasons make perfect sense.  It&#8217;s part of their life&#8217;s journey, their learning lesson&#8230;.not yours. <\/p>\n<p>Focus more on what successful people <strong>DO<\/strong>.  Success leaves clues.  And truly successful people share their strategies&#8230;.some of which may seem silly, weird and illogical&#8230;..until you <strong>DO<\/strong> them and understand WHY.<\/p>\n<p>Be like the waitress.  She goes from table to table with a pot of coffee&#8230;simply asking &#8220;<em>would you like some more coffee<\/em>?&#8221;  It&#8217;s a yes or no question.  If someone says yes, she pours them coffee, maybe engages some chit chat and then moves on.  If someone says &#8220;<em>no, I&#8217;m not interested, or the coffee industry is just a big scam<\/em>&#8221; &#8211; she doesn&#8217;t run into the kitchen and cry or quit being a waitress.  She just moves on to the next table and asks the same simple question&#8230;over and over, table after table, night after night until she achieves her goals that caused her to be a waitress.<\/p>\n<p>And if someone says; &#8220;<em>We&#8217;ll it depends, maybe, what kind of coffee, where are the beans grown, what kind of soil are they grown in, where does the water come from, are they FDA approved?<\/em>&#8220;, etc etc.  She&#8217;ll call the manager over to answer and\/or move on to someone she can help.<\/p>\n<p>A truly successful waitress knows exactly <strong>WHY<\/strong> she&#8217;s waitressing.  She&#8217;ll have nightly, weekly, and monthly dollar goals.  She&#8217;ll engage customers in conversation by asking them questions like who are they, where are they from, where are they traveling to and <strong>WHY<\/strong>.  She&#8217;ll also ask what kind of food do you like, how do you like it prepared and she&#8217;ll <strong>LISTEN<\/strong> and then <strong>RESPOND<\/strong> by providing just the food and information requested. <\/p>\n<p>In a nutshell, she&#8217;ll <em>prosper<\/em> simply <em>by serving others<\/em>.  And in the process she too will earn multiple degrees in psychology.<\/p>\n<p>Tomorrow &#8211; why we go out to eat.<\/p>\n<p>Live With Intention,<br \/>\nDr Bill<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Good Morning Team &#8211; In the process of building your business you&#8217;re going to acquire several degrees in psychology. People are funny. 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