Nominalizations – this last one is a little more subtle. words like “attention” “relationship” or “problem” “IT” are all used as nouns…..only they’re not a person place or thing (definition of a noun.) they’re processes which are frequently “Nominalized” ie they lose their specificity thereby leading to miscommunication. <\/p>\n
So sometimes a prospect with prior experience in NetWork Marketing will say; “IT” didn’t work for me” to which one reply could be; “I appreciate your comments and how specifically did “IT” not work for you”? 99% of the time either the person simply didn’t treat “IT” like a business and allocate time and energy to build “IT”. In other words “IT” failed because they didn’t work but they’re unwilling to take responsibility so it’s much easier to nominalize and thereby disassociate themselves from the situation. Which sadly, ultimately places them in the “victim” role. Same applies to “attention”, or “relationship” or “problem”.<\/p>\n
Again when using this tool coming from a loving place with a loving tone is key. Also it is best to use “I” statements like “I appreciate your comments and…or “I respect your comments and…” Never say “I understand” because until you’ve asked questions you have too little clarity. <\/p>\n
The whole principle of the 5 part “Fluff Buster” communication tool is to communicate more effectively because often the same words mean different things to different people and at different times. If you would like a supper simple one page visual representation of the “Fluff Buster” tool that makes it super simple to remember and use > then email me at DrBillToth@gmail.com with “Fluff Buster” in the sbuject line.<\/p>\n
Live With Intention,
\nDr Bill<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
Nominalizations – this last one is a little more subtle. words like “attention” “relationship” or “problem” “IT” are all used as nouns…..only they’re not a person place or thing (definition of a noun.) they’re processes which are frequently “Nominalized” ie … Continue reading