Are you the Dreaded “Ask-Hole”?


Remember, the fastest way to learn something new is to find a person who has already accomplished what you’re seeking to accomplish. When I started this business I sought to be mentored by a person who was making mid six figures per month.

In the beginning I did EVERYTHING I was told to do – without question – and my business grew so fast I decided to put my practices up for sale.

Once they were sold, I started to question my decision. I also began to question EVERYTHING. I began to think – I “NEED” to know everything about everything. I began to question the product ingredients, the science, the company, the business strategy, the techniques, the scripts, the emails, my mentors and mySelf.

I called my coaches everyday, probably a hundred times per day. (OK maybe not a hundred…at least several). I went to their homes and sat next to them for hours and hours and hours – watching, listening, learning – and rarely applying. I was the dreaded “Ask-Hole”.

 Finally, judgement day came. My coaches called me to the carpet. Bill – your business is shrinking. You’re not DOING the business. You’re simply Anal-yzing it and you’re Failing  Your questions are legitimate. At some future point they’re going to be important things to know. They’re good questions – and here’s one for you; “Are you wanting to get another degree – or are you seeking to learn a new business and achieve your dreams, goals and more?

Here’s what they said next; “From this day forward here’s what we’re going to DO. For every 10 people you talk to – we’ll answer one question. Is that fair?”

My answer a meek, weak – Uh – Yes.

They continued on; Because we learn this business by DOING this business. Learning this business is like learning to swim, dance, ride a bike, or drive a car – you don’t read a bunch of books to learn those things. You learn because of your WHY. You learn to swim so you can breath and live, you learn to dance so you can get the guy/girl, you learn to ride a bike or drive a car for the FREEDOM.

Once I returned to DOING what my mentors told me to DO – even though it wasn’t “comfortable” my business began to grow.

More on “comfortable” tomorrow.

Live with Intention,

Dr Bill


About Dr Bill Toth

Bill’s Background I’m just an average guy who’s learned a few things about Life, Success and Personal Development – thanks to some incredibly good and bad experiences during the past 25+ years. I’ve made many mistakes and have learned to combine down to earth values with a unique ability to distill complex concepts into simple powerful strategies which can be immediately applied to produce measurable results. In short; “I’ve traveled the territory, drawn a few maps and I’m happy to share them” I do not consider myself to be an “expert” and my work is never presented as the definitive doctrine on how you should live your life or what it takes to be successful in your business. I am a work in progress and if you were to you join me on life’s journey by hiring me as your coach or partnering with us in business – our learning will very likely be a two way street. In fact, I expect it to be. “What you know dies with you – what you DO leaves a legacy” I was raised in upstate New York and eastern Pennsylvania. This rural upbringing is strongly reflected in my personal value hierarchy: Faith > Family > Friends > Fitness and Finance. Education and a commitment to continuous improvement are next on the list. All these and more are strongly reflected in my coaching, teaching, writing and speaking. While growing my private practice I also taught Orthopedics and Neurology at both the undergraduate and graduate level, produced a TV show on fitness, appeared on numerous radio and TV programs, authored numerous journal articles, chapters for medical texts, served as vice-president of my state medical association, and started a family. I have had the honor and privilege of consulting with and coaching a diverse population of people from royalty to prisoners, from children to CEO’s, from amateur to professional athletes from 41 countries and people of almost every race, creed, religious belief and nationality. I am passionately committed to contribution and Living With Intention. Part of my philosophy is to think globally while acting locally. I am a very active member of my church, as well as several community organizations. After church, my favorite philanthropy is the Nourish the Children. I have also performed extensive volunteer work for both the Anthony Robbins Foundation, and the Make a Wish Foundation. Why become an Entrepreneur? I became an entrepreneur because after 5 years of Health Care Reform I found I was merely an employee of the various insurance company’s I was interacting with. I became painfully aware I was working more hours for less money and that what I was doing wasn’t working! At the same time my beautiful daughter, Casey, was born. This was the first time in my life I started to think about my future, and of course hers. When children come into your life, your perspective changes from Firebirds and Ferrari’s to Gymnastics, music lessons, horseback riding and so forth. Suddenly, I had to think longterm – was what I was doing going to provide all the things that a father wants for his children? In October of 1998 I started my entrepreneurial endeavors on a very part time basis. Less than 3 months later my New Year’s Resolution was to put my practices up for sale. In May of 1999 I sold them and began to work on my dreams and my fortune on a full time basis. From there, it took me a full five years to get to the point where I could do whatever I wanted to do. Along the way I wrote my first book: “Morning Moments”…as well as learning a few things about money, transitioning careers and happiness. I am happy to share what I know, in short again; “I’ve traveled the territory, drawn a few maps and I’m happy to share them” In summary; Transitioning careers was the hardest challenge I’ve ever taken up and it’s been the most rewarding! In so many ways, this is the very best personal development seminar I’ve ever taken because I met mySelf and my wife in the process…and every perceived adversity was worth it. Today, with my wife Julie, we “get to” pay the gift forward by coaching, mentoring others through the same process. There is no greater pleasure than showing others how to earn their freedom and then observing what good they do with it. Life Will Never Be The Same
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