A Sad Sad Reality and an Exciting Truth

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Here’s some recent headlines.  This is the world we live in today. We can’t control it.  We can choose to get bent out of shape over it.  OR we can BE proactive.

In addition to the above, the vast majority of Americans are just one or two paychecks away from complete and utter financial disaster.  A car wreck, house fire, a medical situation – or for some who are really close to the edge – a flat tire or their kids needing  a new pair of shoes and “poof” they’ll be over the edge, upside down or worse.

So at the end of the day, Yes the headlines are scary, but it’s not really THE economy that gets people upset – it’s THEIR economy that has them all messed up.

So when we hear people commenting on the headlines like those, or complaining about their work situation WE have an obligation to ASK them if they’re just commenting or complaining; OR are they READY to DO something about it?  We MUST ask the question.

When one has specialized knowledge one is obligated to share it in order to Serve others.

As Entrepreneurs we have teams and tools that can provide a REAL solution for many people.  The real product we have to offer people is FREEDOM.  Freedom from the tyranny of CNN (Constantly Negative News).  FREEDOM to choose family and values over just getting by. FREEDOM to create mutiple streams of revenue.  FREEDOM to work more hours and get rewarded based upon what you’re actually worth and the value you add to those around you. FREEDOM to create a better household, better community and better country.

Small businesses built America and small businesses will save America.

Live with Intention,

Dr Bill

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Suppose you’re applying for a new job

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Suppose you’re applying for a new job.  You jump through all the hoops and finally get an interview.  Then you discover you’re seriously being considered.  Then you find out you got the job and that you’ll be making a lot of money.

How would you react?  Would you react any differently if you had been unemployed for 3, 6, 9 months or longer?

After the initial euphoria you would probably start having some questions, like when does the job start?, how much money is a “lot of money”.    You ask your new boss and he/she says;

“You’re definitely going to earn a “lot of money” and I don’t have an exact start date for you – soon”.

And if your new boss refused to answer those questions you would probably become suspicious and maybe even annoyed wouldn’t you?  And, if after some time, your new boss still refused to answer you would probably begin to look elsewhere wouldn’t you?

Of course – and you would be totally justified in doing so.

Because the questions you asked were aimed at getting hard facts.  Right?  Any reasonable person would want to know what was meant by a “lot of money” and any reasonable person would want to know their start date.  And you would probably want it all in writing wouldn’t you.  After all, in today’s world it’s called an “Employment Contract”!  You promise to put in the time and work just hard enough so you don’t get fired and your boss promises to pay you just enough for your time so that you don’t quit.

Now consider this;

LIFE is your new employer.  Life will give us exactly what we ask of it.  Any request we make of it must be absolutely precise.  Asking for “more money” is too vague and will usually net you a few pennies found on the sidewalk.  There ya go Life says; you asked for “more money” and I gave it to you.

As far as monetary wealth is concerned you and I must establish both the amount and the deadline to make it…and it must be in writing.  LIFE demands that little….and offers so much.

Live With Intention,

Dr Bill

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One Wrote it, Both Said it

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One of them wrote it, both said it and if you’re arguing over that you very likely missed the message.
Nelson Mandela and/or Marianne Williamson.

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate.
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
We ask ourselves:  “Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?”
Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God.
Your playing small does not serve the world.
There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us.
It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other
people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
– Nelson Mandela and/or Marianne Williamson

Live With Intention,

Dr Bill

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Here’s one I learned and re-learned the hard way;

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Tithing breaks the shackles of poverty and unlocks the floodgates of Abundance.

Live With Intention,

Dr Bill

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The 6 Fundamental Human Needs

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When we perceive that an action will meet our needs, we are driven to take that action.  If there’s anything you do that maybe others find difficult but that you love to do (and that you could do for hours), I can promise you it’s because you get a tremendous amount of certainty, variety, significance or uniqueness, connection, growth, and/or contribution from DOing it.

1. Certainty/Comfort
For most people, certainty equals survival. We all need a sense of certainty that we can avoid pain and gain pleasure. Some people try to achieve certainty by trying to control everything around them. (Sadly total control is merely a painful illusion.)

Here’s the paradox though. When a person becomes totally certain, when things are completely predictable, when you satiate this need, you become b-o-r-e-d.  So while we want certainty, we simultaneously want a certain amount of …

2. Uncertainty/Variety
Everyone needs variety, a surprise, a challenge to feel fully alive and to experience fulfilment. With too much certainty we’re bored. Like-wise, with too much variety we become extremely fearful and concerned. We need a degree of certainty in our lives to experience the variety. There’s a delicate balance between these two needs that must be struck for us to feel truly fulfilled. Some people choose to get variety, to feel a change in their states or the way they feel by doing drugs or alcohol. Some people do it by watching movies. Others use stimulating conversation and/or go out and create new opportunities to learn.

3. Significance
We all have a need for significance, a sense that we are unique in some way, that we have special purpose and meaning for our lives.

Some people become unique by developing extreme problems that set them apart from others. Medical science has now proven that some people have developed the subconscious ability to make themselves ill in order to gain the caring attention of others.

Some people develop uniqueness by earning more money, having more toys, going to school and achieving more degrees. Or by dressing in a unique way, having a certain sense of style. OR we can choose to live a live of extraordinary service to others.

Paradoxically, in order to feel unique, we have to separate ourselves. If we feel totally unique, we feel different and separate, and this violates our need for …

4. Connection & Love
This includes feeling connected with yourSelf as well with others.

To meet this need, you can join a group or a club that has a positive purpose.  Some individuals join a street gang so they can achieve the feeling of connection.

By aligning with your creator, and feeling like your being guided you can feel immediate connection.

Again, some people become ill in order to feel connected and loved. Some people will steal, do drugs, drink excess amounts of alcohol to feel a part of a group and a sense of connection. Others will perform at extraordinary levels in order to be accepted, loved, or connected to a high performance team. A simple thing to remember is, as with all other human needs, if you give consistently that which you wish to receive, you tend to get it back from others.

5. Growth
Growth equals life.  On this planet, everything that is alive is either growing or dying.  Growth is one of the two primary needs in life. It doesn’t matter how much money you have, how many people acknowledge you, what you’ve achieved in life; unless youfeel like you’re growing, you will very likely be unhappy and unfulfilled.

In addition, you must also experience the euphoria of meaningful …

6. Contribution
We all have a deep need to go beyond ourselves and to live a life that serves the greater good.  It is in the moments that we do this that we experience true joy and fulfilment.  Contributing to ourSelves is a meaningful action as well, for we cannot give to others what we do not have.  A balance of contribution to oneSelf and others, especially unselfish anonymous contribution, is the ultimate secret to the joy that so many people wish to have in their lives.

It all starts with awareness – Which of the 6 human needs is driving your behavior in any particular moment? – you must become aware of WHY you’re doing what you’re doing now so that you can create a new pattern of fulfillment!

Create Your Fate,

Dr Bill

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